In this section, we will consider some of the areas of child development that give parents the most difficulty, and some of the behaviours which bewilder and frustrate mom and dad to the point of wanting to retire early from their job as parents. We have problems with our child’s behavior when he is either too dependent or too independent for our liking. We agonize over the actions of our child when he shows signs of being unaware of other people’s feelings and handles his own feelings in destructive or immature ways.
And we find ourselves questioning our own modelling when our child doesn’t measure up to our moral standards. This clip is a younger example, but we cover all ages including teens.
Antecedent management is your most important parenting tool. Many people rely on consequences which can often be unfair and set kids up for failure. This chapter covers really important points including looking at family patterns.
This chapter helps you identify what you might be doing to create resistance in your kids. It also introduces the idea of limits that matter and that need consistency and things you can hand over to the kids. This chapter is FULL of really useful strategies and present a model that both parents can work from (together or separated).
There are times when we need to follow through but do consequences work? What do we do? What don't we do? When? It's confusing! Get answers.
Many of the problems we experience with our children come simply from their immaturity. Let’s face it, children (including teens) are immature – and why shouldn’t they be, frustrating though it is for us? In this section, we shall consider the child’s immaturity in terms of understanding the world, using his intellectual capacity, and developing values and moral behaviour.
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